The Origins of Matchmaking

Orthodox Jews have a very fascinating belief. The Wikipedia page on Shidduch describes it like so:

“Bashert, (Yiddish: באַשערט), is a Yiddish word that means “destiny”. It is often used in the context of one’s divinely foreordained spouse or soulmate, who is called “basherte” (female) or “basherter” (male).”

We can see from this that the original purpose of the matchmaker was to pair up couples who were “foreordained” to be together. Foreordination isn’t a foreign idea to Mormons seeing it is one of the primary teachings taught in the Book of Abraham:

“Now the Lord had shown unto me, Abraham, the intelligences that were organized before the world was; and among all these there were many of the noble and great ones; And God saw these souls that they were good, and he stood in the midst of them, and he said: These I will make my rulers; for he stood among those that were spirits, and he saw that they were good; and he said unto me: Abraham, thou art one of them; thou wast chosen before thou wast born.
(Abraham 3:22-23)

In a canonized vision Joseph F. Smith received we also find this:

The Prophet Joseph Smith, and my father, Hyrum Smith, Brigham Young, John Taylor, Wilford Woodruff, and other choice spirits who were reserved to come forth in the fulness of times to take part in laying the foundations of the great latter-day work, Including the building of the temples and the performance of ordinances therein for the redemption of the dead, were also in the spirit world. I observed that they were also among the noble and great ones who were chosen in the beginning to be rulers in the Church of God.”
(D&C 138:53-55)

From these two passages we can see that God already decided who was going to lead his Church through every age, even before the earth was created. If this is the case, wouldn’t it also seem probable that God foreordained every marriage and that the Jewish matchmaking system came into being to facilitate the need to determine God’s will in these unions? God’s revelation on eternal marriages heavily implies that this is the case:

“Or will I receive at your hands that which I have not appointed? And will I appoint unto you, saith the Lord, except it be by law, even as I and my Father ordained unto you, before the world was?”
(D&C 132:10-11)

Isn’t God saying here that he can’t accept a marriage unless he ordained it “before the world was”? If this is the case and he allowed you to eternally marry someone who he did not foreordain, wouldn’t he be a covenant breaker and cease to be God? So how do you know you’re following his will in your choice of a spouse? It seems to me that you’d want to ask a man who speaks with God: a prophet. Do you know where to find such a man or how to seek him out?

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